What is your body telling you about your relationship
💓 What Your Body Is Telling You About Your Relationship
🧠💬 More Than Words: How Your Body Reacts in Love
You might not always say how you feel in your relationship — but your body does.
Do your shoulders tense up when your partner walks in the room?
Do you feel like your chest gets tight during certain conversations?
Do you shut down, snap, or want to leave the room when things get tense?
When you anticipate being intimate, do you feel your body tense up?
These are not “just feelings.” They are body signals — and they’re important.
Your nervous system is telling you something.
💡 In PACT couples therapy, we help you understand what your body is saying about your relationship — and how to respond in healthy, healing ways.
🧬 What Is the PACT Method?
PACT stands for Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy.
This therapy was created by Dr. Stan Tatkin and is based on:
🧠 Neuroscience – how the brain and nervous system react to stress
🧸 Attachment theory – how your early relationships shape how you connect today
🧍🏽♀️🧍🏽♂️ Somatic awareness – how your body holds emotions and reacts in real time
In PACT, you don’t just talk about your relationship — you notice how you feel in your body while you're with your partner. This gives powerful clues about what’s really happening underneath the surface.
😟 Does This Sound Familiar?
Your stomach drops when your partner raises their voice 😣
You go silent or shut down when there’s conflict 😶
You feel anxious when you’re not sure where you stand 🫤
You want to connect — but something inside you pulls away 😔
These physical reactions are nervous system responses — not weaknesses. Your body is wired to protect you from pain. But sometimes, those responses can get in the way of the closeness you want.
🧠 PACT therapy helps you recognize these body cues and work with them — instead of against them.
🧘♀️ What Your Body Might Be Telling You
In therapy, we slow things down and pay attention to the signals your body gives during certain moments. These may include:
💥 Fight — You get irritated, raise your voice, or feel defensive
🏃 Flight — You walk away, avoid topics, or disconnect emotionally
❄️ Freeze — You go blank, feel stuck, or emotionally shut down
These are signs your nervous system feels unsafe or overwhelmed — not necessarily signs your relationship is failing. The good news? You can learn how to reset and regulate together.
🤝 In PACT Therapy, You’ll Learn to:
Recognize your own body’s signals 🩻
Understand what your partner’s body might be saying too 🧠
Pause and self-regulate before reacting 🧘
Create safety and comfort for each other in real time 🛡️
Build a “couple bubble” — a zone of mutual care, trust, and protection 🫶
Instead of spinning into the same old patterns, you’ll learn how to stay connected, even when things get hard. That’s how real, lasting change begins.
💖 At Compassionate Empowered Counseling, We Listen to Your Whole Story — Body and Mind
We believe that healing doesn’t happen from talking alone. It happens when we slow down, tune in, and listen to what your body has been trying to say all along.
With PACT, we help couples:
Understand what’s underneath the conflict 🧩
Rebuild emotional safety 💞
Learn to respond, not react 🧠
Feel more loved, supported, and connected 🤗
You and your partner don’t have to stay stuck in painful patterns. There’s a way back to warmth, trust, and teamwork — and it starts with listening inward.
📞 Your Body Knows. Let’s Help You Listen.
If your relationship feels off — even if you can’t explain why — your body might already know. Let’s help you understand those signals and use them to grow closer again.
👉 Call today for a free consultation at 201-994-6706
💬 Book a session and learn what your body is telling you about your relationship
You don’t have to fight harder — you just have to start listening.
We’ll help you tune in and heal, together. 💑💗